Five Ways to Boost Your Teenagers Self Confidence
If you have teenagers, you know what a roller coaster ride they are on with their self confidence. As a parent, you want to encourage them and help them feel good about themselves. How can you boost your teen's self confidence?
Here are several ways to point them in the right direction:
Encourage Your Teen
You might feel like you are encouraging your teen enough when you give them a hug and tell them to have a nice day. Give your encouragement some depth by showing your teenager that they truly are precious to you. Send them text messages that say "I love you," and "I'm proud of you." Show up at their school events. When you are with your teenager, put away your phone so you can focus on them and what they are doing or saying. These things will encourage them. A teen who feels encouraged and loved will also feel confident.
Trust Your Teen
How can you expect your teen to have confidence in himself unless you show confidence in him? Give your teen responsibilities that show you trust him. When he asks to stay out past curfew, don't automatically say no. Discuss with him why he wants to stay out later. If he gives a compelling reason, maybe you should let him stay out one time. Never shut down communication. Even bad communication is better than none.
Talk to your teen about your trust and how important it is. A teen who feels valued and trusted will in turn feel more confident about himself.
Be Authentic With Your Teen
As a parent, you may feel like you need to have it all together and show a brave front to the world. Your teen needs to see that you are real. Being authentic by allowing your teenager to see a parent who has flaws, fears, and needs can help boost her confidence. A confident teen knows that she isn't perfect and a parent who is real instead of fake helps instill this.
Listen to Your Teen
Sure, you probably feel like you listen to your teen. Do you really listen, though? Sometimes listening means hearing what your teen is not saying, rather than what they are saying. Learn to read your teenager's body language. Learn to read between the lines of what your teen says. Ask questions that will open up conversations and help you get to know your teen even better.
When your teen talks to you, put aside distractions so you can really pay attention. Put away the phone. Put down the book. Pull the car over. Turn off the television. Sit down at the kitchen table. This shows your teen that you value what they have to say. Remember that you don't always have to have a comment, an opinion, or advice for everything your teen says. Sometimes just listening to him "get it off his chest" is exactly what he needs from his parent.
Ask for Your Teen's Opinion
Teenagers have plenty of opinions, but too often parents don't ask. Make a habit of asking your teenager for her thoughts and opinions on things. Ask about current events, politics, even what color to paint the bathroom, or which shirt looks better on you. A teen who feels her thoughts are valued will feel more self confidence as a whole.
Boosting your teenager's self confidence is simple enough. Showing your teen that you care, that you value them, that you will listen, that you trust them, and that they are important will help them feel more confidence in themselves.